Control Girl by Shannon Popkin


Do you strive to stay in control of your life? Do you try to make everything fit into your vision of how things should be, including the people around you? When your vision takes the place of God’s vision, you end up without peace, and the thirst for control grows.

In this book, Popkin uses examples from her own life to illustrate the ways we try to take control, even the subtle ways. She shows how they can be damaging to our relationships, including our relationship with God.

I applaud Popkin for being so open about her control issues. Examples from her own life really drive the lessons, alongside Biblical examples.

However, I have two issues with this book.

The first issue is actually seen not just here, but in Christian women’s literature in general. Almost everything in this book is aimed toward married women and mothers. The only section that seemed to encompass single women as well was the chapter regarding Miriam, which was aimed at women in leadership positions. I find that it’s a common trend to leave out single women who are not mothers in these types of books, and this one was no different.

The second issue is that Popkin consistently brings up our “happy ending.” We try to obtain our happy ending by taking control (which is true) but it is only when we give control to God that he will give us our happy ending. It’s that last part that causes some concern for me. I wonder how many women will believe that God will give them the happy ending they want. God’s happy ending could look much different. Some women may not get a “happy” ending this side of heaven, just the peace of God to see them through their circumstances. How many women will relinquish control only to take it back again when it doesn’t look like God is doing what they want?

Control Girl definitely has some practical examples and advice, but it’s these two issues that stop me from rating it higher.

1) Is it understandable = 5
2) Presentation of Information = 4
3) Quality of Writing = 4.5
4) Overall Enjoyability = 3

Average score of 3.1 out of 5
Extra point removed for issues stated above.

I received a complimentary copy of this book from Kregel in return for an honest review.

Where to buy the book: CBD | Amazon | B&N

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